Time does not heal the unforgiven hurts. You either keep running from them or deal with them.

Ephesians 4:30-32

30And grieve not the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you are sealed unto the day of redemption.

31Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:

32And be you kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake has forgiven you.

When LORD Jesus went to cross, He took all my sins with Him. No matter what I have done or will ever do He forgave me.

How other person response is one thing but how your respond is important.

Most people damaged at some point in their life emotionally.

Love your GOD. Every one desires to be loved and would like to love someone. Emotional bondage hostility, pinned emotions will freeze up your capacity to love somebody else to receive love of somebody else.

Unforgiveness damages our relations with others.

Unforgiveness erodes our relationship with LORD. You cannot hold onto your hurts and be unforgiving.

Unforgiveness harms our health.

Forgiveness is I deliberately laid down and put aside this debt that you hurt me. We are not responsible for another person actions. They are responsible for their own actions.

LORD Jesus will never understand your unforgiveness because how can we be possibly unforgiven to anybody else while LORD Jesus Christ forgiven us?

*pride

*selfishness we want it our way and we think they wronged us.

*ignorance

Be willing to forgive regardless whose fault it is.

Do this;

Put 2 chairs opposite to each other and express to other person all the feelings you have and the way they hurt you, let them out.

Say to other person I forgive you because LORD Jesus Christ is my personal Righteous Saviour, because He went to cross and paid my debt in full and has continually forgave me over the years.

Father I would like to thank you for giving me the power, privilege to lay down this hurt that has been there for years, thank you for making it possible for me to forgive them and I accept the forgiveness you have given for other person for what they have done.

Healing process will take place and GOD will set you free of the hurts.

Or write letter and burn it up.

The truth will set you free. The truth is when we are willing to be forgiving as our Father has forgiven us we will be free of the hurt or the harm.